bothers me

My wife and I had a discussion the other day about things that bother us, because they bother us. The problem is, when something that bothers you, doesn't bother you. These are different levels of spiritual maturity. How much it takes to offend you is revealing of how spiritually mature you are. If you get offended, that is revealing. If you are offended, but it bothers you that it offended you, that is a higher level of spiritual maturity. And if something on that same level happens but doesn't offend you, that as well is a whole other level of spiritual maturity. So in other words, being bothered about something bothering you, should only bother you to the point that you are pushing through it so it won't bother you.